The power of sex

In the following lines, I’ll mainly refer to heterosexual couples. Still, I can say with great pride that most practices described below have the same benefits for everyone, regardless of sexual orientation.

Much has been written on sex, not only written but also filmed. A couple’s poor sex life can be very frustrating and trigger many problems. Unfulfilling sex life can even destroy an otherwise good relationship. Sex is a potent driving force. So powerful that respectable people risk their families, carrier, status, wealth, and health only to fulfill their sexual desires.

Sexual preferences are different from person to person, and exceptions are abundant. Therefore, it is wise to be careful when penetrating this delicate subject. Still, as long as no one is hurt, all forms and formats are ok.

Masturbation is a good option for exploring one’s sexuality. This self-fulfilling action may also assist in taming the wild horses, which pull our ‘sex wagon.’ A good portion of the techniques below may be implemented ‘single-handed.’ However, practicing during sexual arousal when we are on our own may come in handy when later being active with a partner in a bed, the official ‘battleground’ of sex.

Some go into the sexual arena to win and conquer; others look for a connecting experience. Some are focused on the physical side, while others concentrate on the emotional experience. Sex has a lot more than 50 shades.

When ecstatically engaged in sex, body hazard signals may be disabled and go unregistered. In extreme cases, we intentionally ignore inner alarms because of the ‘carrot’ hanging right in front.

Sexual activity is a form of physical exertion. Contrary to many other physical activities, making love is not taxing on the body, and there is minimal wear and tear. In most cases, sex contributes positively to our well-being, and sexual desire is generally an indicator of good health.

Most of the time, people engage in sex not for reproduction but as a recreational activity, for fun. It’s not always a smooth ride. One of the reasons for that is that our most important sexual organ doesn’t lie between our legs; it’s located between our ears.

Breathing and sex


Breathing practices are no substitute for love, affection, and mutual respect.


Everything in the body has to do with breathing, including sperm count, fertility index, and those hopping hormones. Breathing practices may be used as an aphrodisiac, a fantastic sex toy, or an intimacy enhancer. If used correctly, breathing may intensify and deepen sexual pleasure.

We have a lot to take care of when making love; still, evaluating how our partner is breathing and tuning into it may upgrade sexual performance and pleasure.

Generally, reducing sensitivity to Carbon-diOxide in the bloodstream may improve control over sexual energies for both men and women.

Sex suppressors

The long and winding road to fulfilling sex is riddled with hurdles. Some are common to men and women, and others are more typical to one of the genders.


Here are some examples of difficulties:

Emotional difficulties:

  • Negative feelings.
  • Lack of attraction.
  • The embarrassment associated with sex.
  • Fear of failing.
  • Worries about pregnancy.


Physical difficulties:

  • Anatomical mismatch.
  • Insufficient lubrication.
  • Pain during sexual intercourse.
  • Hormonal imbalance.
  • Limiting health conditions.
  • Side-effects of medication.
  • Insufficient Oxygen delivery to the sexual organs.
  • Deficiency in Nitric-O


The phases of sexual engagement

A sexual act may include different phases; here they are:

  • Attraction
  • Foreplay
  • Action
  • OrgaZZZZm
  • Discharge
  • Landing


Contrary to animals, human attraction is not all physical. Our personality, which is actually our mind, may create a strong sexual attraction between two people.

On the physical side, men are unconsciously attracted to ‘fertile females’ having particular face symmetries and body proportions, which are unconsciously interpreted as fertile! This mind interpretation improves the chances of species preservation.

Women are unconsciously attracted to ‘protecting males,’  having certain face symmetries, body proportions, and muscle distribution. This attraction was meant to improve the survival chances of the woman and her offspring. It may sound a bit chauvinistic, but that’s not the meaning.

Besides visual attraction, we are also attracted to specific body scents. This scent evaluation instinct is probably reminiscent of earlier stages of our evolution when we relayed more heavily on our sense of smell. Body odor may boost sexual rejection or attraction much more than most think it does. Different aromatic compounds were used traditionally to mask natural body odors. Still today, the perfume & aftershave industry is assisting men and women in fooling one another with false smell signals.

A taste evaluation is also part of assessing a potential mate. When kissing, we can go beyond the review of breath to that of mouth taste. Bad breath and foul mouth taste may indicate a health problem, often triggering rejection.

With our ears, we can hear what a potential partner has to say and get indications of what sort of mind hides between a person’s ears. The personality and behavior of a potential partner are substantial reasons for attraction or rejection.

The way we breathe affects sexual attraction. Unconsciously, we pick up breathing signals from a potential partner, which reflect their emotional state and other health conditions. No magical breathing will suddenly turn someone not particularly attractive into a human magnet. However, there are ways to breathe, which may contribute positively to initial attraction.

When walking into a room with two people, one breathing erratically and one breathing deep and slow, we are naturally drawn to the slow and deep breather. Furthermore, if the room is full of strangers, and one person occasionally smiles in good timing, chances are that we would be drawn to them. A smiling person makes other people feel relaxed, which is attractive. A breathing clock allows more coherent smile transitions. Still, it’s important to bear in mind that exaggerated or unsynchronized smiling may create the exact opposite effect.


Attraction tools }

  • Slow and deep rhythmic breathing.
  • Exclusive nose breathing.
  • Using the diaphragm in maximum amplitude.
  • Synchronizing smiles similarly to the exercise

Foreplay warm-up

Foreplay prepares a couple for eventual intercourse. When body and mind are ready for an upcoming sexual contact, chances are that things will last longer, be smoother, and be more pleasurable.

A natural part of foreplay is kissing. On our tongue, there is a concentration of many nerve endings sensing both touch and taste. Pleasant kissing connects and also allows evaluation.  Long kissing requires the ability to nose-breathe. Kissing while breathing through the mouth can give the impression that one is about to make love with a vacuum cleaner.

Breathing is a connecting medium, and breath-synchronizing creates a bond. Reaching breathing minimums and maximums simultaneously,  holding the breath together, and producing the same sounds are some options worth exploring.

Synchronizing requires feedback. Facing one another or light physical touch is a good way to tune in. For example, touching foreheads, covering with the palm the partner’s heart area, hugging, embracing, cuddling, or sitting back-to-back, are fine ways to get feedback.

Sundry breathing exercises may be used as ‘spices’ during the foreplay by performing them in tandem.


Delaying arousal

Foreplay often arouses, but in some cases, the exact opposite is the need. If one is far ahead of the other, a tactical delay may help match sexual energy. Another situation where suppressing lust can assist is when our sexual drive leads us to unwanted places. Thoughts manipulation is one option, but since sexual impulses are not easy to overcome, having additional tools may be helpful. For example, practicing a dying man’s breathing can help reduce sexual desire.


Foreplay tools }






Also, while having sex, there are two opposite forces at play: relaxing and stimulating. Balancing both increases the chances of fulfillment. Furthermore, we need to balance our needs with our partner’s needs.

We may contribute to balancing by adding relaxing or stimulating sounds to the exhale. While lovemaking, authentic sounds can release flooding emotions. In addition, we can use sounds to create rhythms and synchronize. For example, sighing, moaning, and groaning are vocal manifestations of normal lovemaking. These sounds may turn on a partner and are used to balance. Sounds made while having sex may either be genuine or fake; as long as they are in sync, all is well.

Imagining things while lovemaking can boost the experience. On the other hand, it’s natural that we would like our partner to be present; another balancing need.

During the act, we can visualize the inhaled air going down to the pelvis and energizing the sex organs. Another option is visualizing that inhaling and exhaling are done directly from the gentiles.

Action tools }

If it feels right…

  • Control excitement and relaxation by breathing ratio.
  • Vocalize the breathing.
  • Visualize breathing through the sex organ.



An orgasm is a possible outcome of sex. It’s a euphoric feeling of pleasure, described more vividly as a fantastic firework show displayed on a high mountain. 

What follows an orgasm of both women and men is some sort of a discharge. While men clearly ejaculate a noticeable portion of sperm, most women’s release is more subtle.  After orgasm and discharge, there is a disparity between women and men. Most men become sexually disabled, temporarily losing interest in sex after they ejaculate. Once a woman experiences orgasm and a discharge, there is usually no loss of sexual appetite; sometimes, the contrary happens. Synchronizing and timing the outcomes of this disparity is tricky.

Some men have a problem ‘getting there prematurely’ while some women have a problem not being able to ‘get there at all.’ So, what often happens is that men try to avoid a discharge while women struggle to get one.

When getting close to an orgasm, there is usually a more drastic change in breathing. Breathing rate often increases, and breathing volume doesn’t always follow accordingly. Carbon-diOxide/Oxygen balance is affected.

Orgasms and what’s bundled with them come in varying forms. Some are more intensive and are felt all over the body; others are more local. They vary in duration and depth. Besides having to do with our sexual identity, orgasms unfold according to how we build them up and the degree of sexual tension.

Geologically speaking, some women expect a tectonic plate movement under their feet, or at least a level 7 Richter-scale earthquake to occur, when getting to an orgasm. On the other hand, most men are focused on a volcanic eruption. These seismic forces of nature are not fully understood, and so are orgasms.


Women’s orgasm

A woman’s joyful pleasure peak is unique. Some women vocalize their orgasm loudly; others exhale a quiet ahhhh. Orgasms may manifest themselves as laughter or even crying. They may be genuine or counterfeited.

There are two main paths to a female’s climax, vaginal and clitoral. The paths may cross, and the road to some women’s elusive orgasm requires skipping between the two tracks. The track toward a vaginal orgasm tends to pass through Rest & Repair dominance, associated with slower breathing and prolonged exhalations. The path toward a clitoral orgasm passes mostly through Fight or Flight dominance, associated with faster breathing, where the inhales are extended.

Nose inhaling allows the intake of Nitric-Oxide, which contributes to relaxation and may assist some women in getting closer to an orgasm.

Embedding conducive breathing sequences by practicing out of the bedroom may improve success chances.

Instead of focusing thoughts on a slippery orgasm that is difficult to catch, shifting concentration towards breathing may get an orgasm closer.


Inducing an orgasm when getting close to a climax tool }

  • Exclusive nose breathing during the buildup.
  • Concentrate on breathing rather than on the orgasm.
  • Only when feeling very close to the climax, switch to mouth breathing.


Men’s orgasm

In various eastern teachings, male orgasm and ejaculation are two different experiences. If one is quick enough, it’s possible to snatch an orgasm before the ejaculation occurs. The challenge is to hit the ‘off switch’ on time and retain sexual fluids and energy typically lost following an ejaculation. That requires mental and physical control, which is not so easy to achieve when sexual energies distract.

There is the old trick for avoiding ejaculation close to the climax, by thought diversion and a retreat. For example, men would think about their house ‘going up in flames,’ but instead of retreating and saving the house, they would say to themselves, ‘what the hell, let it burn.’

Regaining sexual control at the right moment requires practice, experience, and knowledge of our own tendencies. However, postponing immediate gratification may bring significant sexual rewards.

By hyperventilating, in both volume and speed, we can quickly clear Carbon-diOxide from the bloodstream. In addition, by lowering the levels of Carbon-diOxide, we reduce Oxygen supply to the gentiles, which is needed for ejaculating.

Using the mouth when hyperventilating may cause a further delay, particularly for those who predominantly use their nose for regular breathing. On top of that, a reduction of nasal Nitric-Oxide, causes blood vessels to constrict, further reducing Oxygen supply to the gentiles.

Following a few rounds of getting very close to an orgasm, hyperventilating, and sexual containment, the penis often becomes less sensitive, which allows longer sex.

Delaying ejaculation when getting close to a climax tool }

  • Switch to exclusive mouth breathing.
  • Intensively hyperventilate by volume and speed.